Desire to have children: “A different desire to have children is not a reason for separation”
Moving in together, maybe getting married and, of course, having children: “That sounds so nice, so easy, so normal to many people,” says couples therapist Nele Sehrt. But it is not. Like almost everything Desire to have children. Not only those who want children have to ask themselves many questions: When? How quickly? With whom? Alone or as a couple? Can my body cope with it? But also those who decide to be happy without children – because that is often still seen as something deficient, says Nele.
In this episode, podcast hosts Melanie Büttner and Sven Stockrahm talk to Nele about answers: for couples, singles, queer people, whether infertile, ambivalent or having tried for years. Because far too many people remain alone with their desire to have children or a no to it, says Nele. But there are more solutions than many people think. Even if for some it can also mean a painful farewell.
The entire episode can be heard at the top of this page.
More about our guest
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Nele Sehrt has her own psychological practice in HamburgShe is a qualified psychologist and a sex, couple and trauma therapist. She also writes for the newspaper World a column about love, sexuality and relationships. On Instagram, Nele Sehrt is known as @psychologin.nele to find.
- In this episode we mention data from the study Unwanted childlessness 2020which was commissioned by the Federal Ministry for Family Affairs.
- Nele also refers to the Online community familyship.orgwhich advises and supports people to realize their desire to have children – be it as a traditional family, as a co-parent, a rainbow family, as a single parent or together with several parents.
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More about the sex podcast
- Do you know our book? Is this normal? Let’s talk about sex the way you want it
- Follow the sex podcast hosts, the doctor and sex therapist Melanie Büttner and the ZEIT-ONLINE head of the knowledge department, Sven Stockrahm, on Instagram at @dr.melanie.buettner and @svensonst.
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