“I had my miscarriage on a Sunday, and on Monday I was at work. » When she lost her baby at 10 weeks pregnant, Isabelle was at home. A visit to the hospital made it possible to verify that “everything was going well” and, the next day, this pharmacy technician from the metropolis of Lyon was behind her counter, on her feet all day.
It was more than 20 years ago, and yet the forty-year-old remembers the date perfectly, April 13, 2003, and “the contractions to put the uterus back in place, the bleeding”. “I see myself going home at lunchtime with a furious urge to vomit from the pain so I can sleep for an hour, before going back to work until 7 p.m. » There was never any question of sick leave, the hospital did not offer her any and she does not even know if she would have asked for one. “Financially, I could not afford the three-day waiting period. »
Give the change
Her boss never knew about this miscarriage. As is the director of Émilie, a 31-year-old middle and high school teacher in Bas-Rhin. Four years ago, after bleeding, she went for a blood test to check her HCG hormone levels. “I received the results between two courses. I left the building to cry and then went back in and pretended. »
Isabelle, Émilie and all the readers that we questioned are unanimous in welcoming the elimination of the waiting period in the event of miscarriage since 1er January. Because without the possibility of stopping, some women could lose their embryo at their workplace.
In November 2022, Anne, a 29-year-old Alsatian, learned during the dating ultrasound that her baby’s heart was no longer beating. A tablet dispensed by the hospital should speed up expulsion, but without doctors being able to predict when exactly it will take effect. “I asked them to stop me,” explains the nurse. I didn’t want this to happen at work and I knew I wouldn’t have the energy to take care of my patients. »
“This baby was already part of our lives”
Because a miscarriage can be experienced as the loss of a child, even if it was not yet born. “For my husband, my daughters and me, this baby was already part of our lives,” remembers Aurélie.
Eight years ago, a miscarriage at 10 weeks of pregnancy required curettage under general anesthesia. “I left the operating room early in the afternoon and the gynecologist wanted me to return to work the next day. A midwife had to insist that he agree to stop me for two days,” continues the 41-year-old Alsatian. “I have not had any salary withheld and I find it very good that no woman has any anymore. It’s already difficult enough. »